This week, I’ve been talking to my girlfriends about love, life, and relationships. It’s amazing how we see each other as so different on the outside, but the issues we struggle with in love and life are pretty much identical. When we’re kids, love and life are so simple. It’s almost like they’re the same thing. They’re just naturally entwined. Then we grow, and the older we get, the more the two become separate. It feels as if life is the reality and love feels like a quest where the lucky ones will find “the One” quickly and the rest will be destined to struggle. In my experience, and it took me a while to figure it out, the struggles in both of these areas were because of expectations of what they “should” be. Life was supposed to be this certain way and the “right guy” would have all of these specific traits. It just doesn’t work that way. I learned that what’s good for you isn’t always what you have in mind. The struggle was real and I finally realized that those things that didn’t come to me when I knew that I was giving the best of myself were just not right for me. When it’s right, it just flows….it’s not complicated. If you focus on being your best and happy with yourself, you’ll know right away when the “right one” comes along because they will just make you feel even better. No games, no drama just a positive and uplifting connection.